| Columban Affiliates: Partners In Mission |
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Columban Affiliates are men and women who gather four to six times a year for a faith-sharing reflection with others possessing the mission spirit.
Many Catholics want to answer God’s calling for them to become missionaries, but don’t see themselves making a life-long commitment to overseas cross-cultural missionary work.
At home in L.A. Mindy Miñoza is a native of the Philippines who has been a Columban Affiliate in Los Angeles
since December 2006. My most-recent patient is not unique. Like most patients I have worked with for nearly a decade, she suffers from Alzheimer’s disease. The illness is all-too-common for elderly people, who suffer from memory loss, irritability, impatience, mood swings, sleeplessness and disorientation. Because I know of the difficulties associated with Alzheimer’s, I know how important it is for me to establish a good relationship with the patient. Dealing with seemingly impossible cases is not new to me. An incident I will never forget was when a patient yelled at me and asked me to leave her home because she was annoyed that someone was around. Perhaps she was confused because of her illness or she simply wanted to be on her own. But, I couldn’t just leave her, so I walked to another part of the house for a few minutes and then returned. When I came back, she asked me where the other lady was. There was no other woman, of course, except me. The Challenge Of Unconditional Love Sometimes in these situations, you need to be tough. You have to accept the impossible, because caring for these people is your job, and they are not physically and psychologically well. You must understand them, and they will not understand you. To sustain such a relationship is a daily challenge. Just to be present for somebody who is in need makes a lot of difference in giving meaning to life. But I’m only human. I am going to be hurt no matter how confused or disoriented the patient is. The only thing I can do is to hold on to God. Sometimes, I look out the window and ask God to give me more patience and understanding to do my job. There are moments that are so difficult to handle, but I pray for God to give me more strength and courage to continue. I cannot complain, because I know God is always there with me and the people with whom I work and live. I’m so grateful to God that I can make a difference in people’s lives. Sometimes I ask myself why I am doing this. They are not my family, and, yet, I find a home with them. The last few years of their lives become significant for me up until their last days. I am there entrusting their frail human bodies to God, and I pray for an easy passage to eternal peace for them as their souls rest with Him. I have received awards and recognition for being faithful about what I believe is the best care I can give. But I hold tight to the basic and fundamental philosophy in life beyond these praises, which is unconditional love needed to serve my patients well. I am happy when I see patients improving and enjoying the last years of their lives. To see them happy and healthy motivates me to give them the best quality care. Caring for the elderly is my God-given mission. I don’t work just for money; I work for God by being able to care for people in nearly impossible situations. I see myself being a missionary to people with whom I work. They need care, assistance and love, especially at this latter stage of their lives. These people gave so much during their prime, so now it is time for them to receive well-deserved care and live dignified and happy lives. Each day, this is my challenge.
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